Monday, February 22, 2016

I'm losing my marbles!

Ever feel like you are losing your marbles?  All 936 of them?!
Have you ever been sitting in church and you hear something you've heard time and time again but this time it grabs you and shakes you to your core?  Yep, that was me yesterday!


Our College Ministry Director, Chris Shepperd's sermon was just what I needed to hear.  It's something that has been on my mind so much lately but hearing it in a new way really caught my attention.  I want to share with you bits and pieces of his message...

Did you know...as parents we have 936 weeks to make a difference in the lives of our children?  Let that sink in... 936 weeks until they graduate from high school.  When you are in the throws of late night feedings, uncontrollable crying, and lack of sleep - those 936 weeks might as well be 936 years.  But, when they enter their teen years (and you STILL have late night feedings, uncontrollable crying, and trouble sleeping!) those 936 weeks start flashing right before your eyes!  (This message really hit home with me since Colby will be entering high school next year.  Time with him is ticking by really, really quickly!)

Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. - Psalm 90:12 (NIV)

We need the reminder of 936 weeks so that we will have a visual reminder to "number our days".  If not, we'll cruise through parenting just in time to look up and see our kids leaving our home and we're left standing on the front porch, waving goodbye, thinking, "did I teach them enough..."  Lord, teach us to number our days and know that we have one chance to make a difference in the lives of our children.

“O Lord, let me know my end and how many days I have to live. Let me know that I do not have long to stay here. You have made each of my days as long as a hand is wide. My whole life is nothing in Your eyes. Every man at his best is only a breath. - Psalm 39:4-5 (NLV)

How long do we have on this Earth to make a difference?  We don't have to ask that question because it doesn't matter.  We could have one day or we could have fifty more years.  The awesome news is that we can make a difference right now!  Right this very minute!  Not tomorrow, not next week.  Right now!  Realizing that our time is limited makes what matters, matter more.  And, our kiddos definitely matter!

Years ago, there was a theory that stated it would take 10,000 hours of practice or study to become an expert in any subject.  While this has been disputed, let's for the sake of argument, run with these numbers...  If it takes 10,000 hours of parenting to become an "expert", how long do you have to be a parent to {some what} feel confident that you aren't screwing these little people up?  If we intentionally pour just 4 hours a day into our children, we aren't an expert until they are nearly 7 years old!!!  And that's IF we are intentional every.single.day for a minimum of 4 hours a day (I factored in sleep, work, extra circular activities, household responsibilities, etc.).  When we only have 936 weeks, we must be intentional with what time we have with our kids.

I don't want this to be a doom and gloom post about how we are watching time with our children slip away - week by week.  It's a personal reminder to myself that we must be aware and intentional with how we spend our time and just exactly what we want our children to take with them when they leave.  After church, I quickly jotted down 10 things I want our kids to know before they leave our home.  I know I'm leaving so many things out but here are just a few things that popped into my head:

198 weeks * 368 weeks * 703 weeks
This is how many weeks we have left with Colby, Holden & Hope...

Believe me, I'm aware and focused on being intentional with the time I have left to pour in to them.
Ever feel like you are losing your marbles?  All 936 of them?!

Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.  And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another... - Hebrews 10:24-25 (NLT)

I want to make my time count.  One way I can work on this is by asking myself, "what am I doing today that matters tomorrow?"  How do you feel about losing your marbles?  Let's motivate and encourage each other on this journey of parenthood!  I would love to hear the things you want to make sure your kids know before they leave home.

Let's make this week count!  Gig 'em and God bless! 
Holly

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26 comments:

  1. Oh as a momma who's babies have flown the nest, I have a lot I could contribute to this post if we were sitting around the table with other mommas. Let me say this, to all mommas: "limit your time on your phones." Yup, that's what I would say. See, years ago, phones were not an issue, so we spent intentional, undivided time with our kids and in today's culture, the opposite. Their with their kids, but many are not engaging with them. Without snapping a picture, checking FB, emails, etc. or if you are a blogger, okay, I know it can be addicting, doing everything for your blog. This post I hope speaks to many out there who struggle with exactly your words here. Time DOES GO FAST! Great post Holly!

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    1. Wouldn't that be fun if we could sit around a table and just chat about life?! I would LOVE that!!! So guilty about the things you mentioned too! Definitely going to work on this! Our kids are SO worth it!

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  2. I agree with Michelle. I totally like to make the excuse that my kids really don't want to spend time with me and would rather be doing something else...hmmm...where in the world did they learn that from? Me..always doing "something else". With Jordan & Riley there were far less distractions, less money in the bank and more time just being silly together. Why does parenting have to be so hard?!

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    1. Yep - guilty over here! Focused on getting back to the basics!

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  3. Oh yeah....I know, i know....because IT'S WORTH IT!!

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    1. TOTALLY worth it but parenting isn't for sissies - that's for sure!

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  4. Time does go super fast. I too, am an empty nester and some times it is just so awesome having my girls grown and thriving and knowing we did great. Other times, it is very very quiet here. I miss them both dearly but I am so proud how they have both turned out! I agree with Michelle, to put down phones and enjoy the time together. Also, make sure they understand finances! Our oldest- had it down pact. She is now a Bank Manager for Wells Fargo. Our baby, however, has had a harder time of grasping it! Because we let her get away with not having to. So teach them about MONEY!!! Have a great week!

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    1. Great point, Kim! Finances are SO important. We had the kids sit in with us on the financial part of Colby getting braces and their eyes were definitely opened. They had no idea how much they cost. Made us realize we need to do that about lots of things - house payment, insurance, etc. I'll definitely be adding that to my list of things I want them to "get" before moving out! Thanks so much for stopping by! I hope you have a great day!

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  5. Depressing yes, but motivational all the same.

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  6. With two adults kids (18 and 20), I felt my main responsibility was to make sure that they were somewhat responsible for themselves when they were 18 and accountable for their actions. I know that sounds simple but you don't know how many of friends bought their kids crap and stuff but never imparted that in their kids.

    The world has with its devices and stuff has made it hard. When my kids where with me (I was a divorced dad), I made them give me their phones and stuff at dinner and believe it or not I did allow a video game system in my house. I wanted them ready to get along with other humans.

    I saw some about financial stuff. Our school system doesn't want people to know about finances. I because I am an educator. The State of California has all these rules about what kids get in school but out of 12 years of schooling, they are only required to take one semester of economics. Something is wrong there and our kids are getting played. I made my kids do some assignments I created when I teaching math, that deal with credit, housing, cars, etc. I wanted them to understand about stuff.

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    1. Personal responsibility is HUGE!!! Sadly, it's not as simple as it sounds and it's something that many, many people lack. Another great one I'll be adding to my list!

      Kuddos to you for instilling in your kiddos respect and financial responsibility. I'm sure they didn't realize it at the time but are so thankful for all you've done for them to prepare them for adulthood!

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me! It's awesome to hear from someone who's been there, done that!

      Hope you have an extraordinary week!

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  7. YES! Oh, sometimes it's so crazy you wan't to just snap, or walk out from your own life. Well, it happens, And it passes. So it's important to remember the lesson along the way. Part of the package. :)

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    1. So true! There are many hard days but when we stop and realize how little time we have with our kiddos - it makes pushing through that much easier! We're all in the together - we can do it!

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  8. This is excellent! Thanks for linking up today and sharing! xo

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    1. Thanks, Jessi! And, thanks for hosting! I'll be back next week! ;)

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  9. A great reminder, Holly. Something tangible like 900 odd weeks with our children hits home. So, like you said, we must be intentional with the time we spend on our children because, it may sound like high school or college is a long ways away, but in one blink we'll be here, and we'll have to say goodbye and let them go. And I'd rather do that knowing, I've spent as much time as I can with them.

    Thanks for sharing such a lovely piece with us on #SHINEbloghop.

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    1. Thanks so much for stopping by, Maria! I learned this week that sometimes when you hit Publish, you will have actual moments to put into practice what you wrote about. Eek! Had a moment where I wondering if our oldest knew anything on my 10 things I want our children to know before they leave our home. Thankfully I still have 197 more weeks to pour myself in to him!

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  10. Wow!! Love this post. It goes right along with the word we received at church last night. I'll be reflecting and making my list of what I want my kids to know. Thank you!!

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    1. Thanks so much, Misty! We're all in this together and have to lean on and learn from each other! Thanks so much for stopping by! Hope to see you back again soon!

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  11. Thanks for sharing with Thursday Favorite Things Blog hop!

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for hosting! I hope you have a great week!

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  12. Love this! I pray many of these same things for my girls!

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    1. It's so hard to realize how fast the time is going!!!

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