Sunday, August 14, 2016

change, chaos, and all the feels!

To say I've been MIA around the blogosphere lately would be an understatement!  I looked back and it appears I've only posted three times in the last month.  What could keep me from something that I love so much?  Hmmm...  lots of changes, lots of chaos, and all the feels!

Let me start by saying, I tend to find myself retreating this time of year.  The first day of school is my absolute LEAST favorite day of the year and it is quickly approaching.  And, what makes this year's back-to-school even harder?!  In less than a week, our first born will be entering high school and our baby will be starting Kindergarten!  Yes, cue all the tears!

Add to this a husband that has taken a new job that requires a three-hour daily commute and you have a mama that is in a major state of transition!  I've had one too many pity parties, cried way too many tears but, thankfully, this is just a valley.  It's just one blip on our family timeline and we will get through this!  I'm also quick to remind myself that these events are small in comparison to the battles that other families face on a daily basis.

This time of year is full of transitions for so many moms and I know that I'm not alone. Here are a few things that have gotten me through the last few weeks (and months!).


I wish I could tell you that I had these amazing conversations with God thanking and appreciating all that He has given us but most of my prayer time lately has been just sobs. I'm confident that when I don't have the words (or the "right" words) to pray, God knows what's on my heart and truly wants what is best for us.

And, if you find yourself just not able to pray, ask others to pray for you.  Because of the sensitivity of Mike's decision, I was only able to confide in a couple of people.  Words can't begin to express how much it meant when friends would tell me they were praying for me.  Never ever underestimate the power of prayer!


Everyone needs at least one person they can go to and dump all their junk.  I've started way too many texts with "pity party alert - let me get this all out and then I'll go put on my big girl panties".  I can honestly say, I do not know what I would have done without the wonderful women who have stood beside me these last few months.  They poured into me, listened to my rants with no judgments, and loved me through my freak outs!  I couldn't have made it without their love and support!

It's also important to be there for friends in their time of need and, while I wish my friends would only have good days, I hope and pray I can be there for them like they have been there for me.


I tried so hard to keep it all in, and for months I was able to control the tears, but for the last week, I haven't been able to control my emotions.  High school schedule pick-up - cue the waterworks.  Kindergarten assessment - tears.  Confirming Mike's work schedule - all the tears.  After a few days of what seemed like non-stop tears, I actually feel better.  It's been almost therapeutic to shed all those tears.  So, go ahead and cry!  You have my permission! ;)


Get a pedicure.  Read a book.  Take a nap.  Make something.  Do anything that will bring a smile to your face!  You can't take care of your family without taking care of yourself first.


There's just something about doing something for someone else that can always turn my frown upside down!  When I feel like my pity party has gone on long enough, I'll find some way to bless someone else.  Turning my focus away from myself towards someone else is always a mood booster.  Try it!

The past few weeks have been rough and I would be crazy to think the hard part is over but I know that I can make it through.  Thank you for not giving up on my little corner of the blogosphere.  I'm so glad you are here!  In the coming weeks, I will share with you my vision for what this space will be but you can guarantee that this is a place where you can come to be encouraged.  If only to be encouraged that you are not alone!

So, I'm back and looking forward to sharing with you all the changes and bits of chaos that are going on over here while I wait...

Gig 'em and God bless! 
Holly

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28 comments:

  1. I have missed your blog posts - glad you are back!!! I can sympathize with what you are going through - my oldest is leaving for his freshman year of college on Thursday, and my youngest (and only other) is starting high school as a freshman in a couple of weeks. Add to that a promotion/new job at work with more responsibilities and longer hours??? I feel like I have been an emotional hot mess. Thanks so much for the tips - I need every one I can get!

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    1. Ah! Thank you so much! It sounds like you can definitely understand all the feels! We're in this together and can encourage each other through the lows! But here's hoping for some highs real soon!

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  2. Hang in there! Hope y'all have a great start to the school year and that your husband's schedule becomes routine soon. Transition is always tough. Hugs! :)

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    1. Thanks so much, Tanya! Routine - I could get on board with that! Thanks so much for stopping by and I hope you have an extraordinary week!

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  3. Get out of my head! Your post is so timely and just the reminders that I've needed. We too are going through so many transitions. As you said, it's a valley...a season that shall pass and God will bring us through it. Thank you.

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    1. It does help when you don't so feel alone! Not that I want anyone else to be bummed or sad - but we can encourage each other! We can do this! Hang in there and I hope your hill is coming soon! Hope you're week is full and blessed!

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  4. WElcome back, Holly!
    3 hr commute?? Ouch!
    Yeah, kids growing up are a definite tearjerker!!
    Glad you have friends, and were able to cry.
    Your focus on helping others encourages me so much!

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    1. Thankfully, the 3 hour commute is round trip and not one way - you have to look on the bright side, right?! ;) He started to work last week and the kids started back to school on Monday so we are slowly but surely getting into a routine. We can do this! :) Thanks so much for continuing to read! I appreciate you so much!

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  5. I'll pray for you, dear heart. I hated it when the kids went back to school. I loved having them at home. We had such fun. X had a very long commute at one time. It was hard on both of us. If he hadn't gotten fired, we would have moved closer to where he worked, but we didn't have children in public school anymore so don't think I'm advocating a move. I worked very hard so my children didn't have to attend multiple schools.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Thank you so much for the prayers, Janie! I have definitely felt prayed for and loved!!! Thankfully 6 months isn't that long. I have friends who do this every.single.day! I had just gotten really use to (ok, ok spoiled!) to him working at the edge of our neighborhood! He could come home almost anytime and helped out with drop offs and pick ups. We are definitely a team and I'm missing my partner in crime! But, this is only temporary. We can do it!

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  6. Thanks, Holly, for being real and sharing with us. Transitions are hard and it seems as I look back over the years of my life I come to recognize they are a constant in this life. Nothing stays the same in this life and it seems it gives the Lord lots of opportunities to help me grow and learn in new ways to trust and rely on Him.

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    1. So, so, SO very true! It's easy to get comfortable. I truly feel we learn more in the trenches (maybe I should work on being teachable when everything is going good!). :) Thanks so much for stopping by! I hope you're having a great week!

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  7. Wishing you brighter days ahead!

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    1. Thank you so much, Laura! It's amazing what blogging can do - just getting it off my chest instantly made me feel better! Blogging - it's cheaper (but more time consuming!) than therapy! ;)

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  8. Praise God! I concur! I've spent far too many years trying to keep it all in and manage it myself. Now I cry and vent and then I act like a big girl!

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    1. Emotional girls UNITE!!! It's too hard holding it all in! Let it out!

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  9. All of those are so true. Thanks for sharing. I hate transitions and I might be looking at one myself (voluntary).

    As an educator, I hate the first day of school.

    Prayers to you and your family and good luck to you.

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    1. Hoping your (possible) transition and first day of school went well! Thoughts and prayers headed your way!

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  10. I am all about a good cry! There have been many cries in this house lately. I also don't know what I would do without good friends letting me have my pity parties and loving me through them. Change is hard and I am one that does not handle it well. However, I have learned time and time again that things always seem to work out how they should. Give yourself time and grace! Have a great week!

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    1. You are so right! Things always work out the way they should - I just wish I would get better with the whole trust issue! ;) Mike started his job last week and the kids have made it through the first couple days of school. Hoping we can get into a routine soon. It's "just" 6 months! :) We can do this!

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  11. Those are all great tips for coping. Here's wishing you all the best for the future with your husband's job and kids' school. I'm not ready for my kids to go back in a few days. My boys will be Seniors. Eek! As you mentioned, it is good to have friends who have your back. I went through a rough patch in July, still grieving over my mother's death. Without God and my church friends, I'm sure I'd still be in the rut.

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    1. What would we do without friends? They lift us up when we can't - hoping I can pay it forward!!! And, seniors?! I can't even imagine - but I better start because I'm sure these high school years will go by in a blink of an eye!!!

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  12. Oh Holly! I have wondered why you have been so absent, although I have enjoyed keeping up with you thru SanpChat. I am so sorry that you are going thru all of this. But just know that we all care about you and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as your oldest goes off to High School and your baby heads to Kindergarten. It is SUCH an emotional time for Moms! I get it! I don't have ANY kids in college anymore, but this has been an emotional summer for me since Taylor hasn't found a job yet in her college career and has moved home to live with us and work with her Dad. I have been a basket case. That is why I go to the coast AS OFTEN AS I CAN. It is the only thing that keeps me sane. God Bless you and I hope you feel all the love from all of us!

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    1. I'm loving SnapChat!!! Love our quick little "snaps"! And, thank you so much for the love! I truly have felt it!!! Hoping and praying that Taylor can find a job soon! I vividly remember graduating and not being able to find a job. It's so depressing! But, just the right thing is out there! Guaranteed! Thanks so much for continuing to check back on my little blog! It means so much to me! Hope you have a super day!

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  13. Heck yes...crying is really the best for me but unfortunately the build up to the cry isnt' always pretty. This year is going to be so exciting for you friend and I can't wait to see you continue to bloom!

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    1. You are the best and I truly don't know what I would do without you!!!

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  14. What a great post! It fits so well to my family's situation! We've been going through changes for the last 3 years and just made a major move to another country! We homeschool, so preparing for the new school year is different for us. Motivation is always a big problem after a summer of travel and fun. We're a family of mixed culture living abroad, America being my home country. But after living in Germany for 14 long years, it wore on my emotions. So, just 2 weeks ago made a huge step in moving to Spain, LOVE IT! Anyway, change is good but hard and I SO get it! ;) Without God, I would be a HUGE mess. Now, I'm just a little mess! LOL Blessings to you Holly!

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    1. Wow! You've definitely had LOTS of changes yourself! And, I couldn't agree more - I'm a mess but much less of a mess because I've got God! Sometimes I think we have the yuck stuff happen cause that makes us depend on Him more. If it were all rainbows, we would think we had things under control! Thanks so much for stopping by! Have a blessed day!

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