Let me start by saying, I tend to find myself retreating this time of year. The first day of school is my absolute LEAST favorite day of the year and it is quickly approaching. And, what makes this year's back-to-school even harder?! In less than a week, our first born will be entering high school and our baby will be starting Kindergarten! Yes, cue all the tears!
Add to this a husband that has taken a new job that requires a three-hour daily commute and you have a mama that is in a major state of transition! I've had one too many pity parties, cried way too many tears but, thankfully, this is just a valley. It's just one blip on our family timeline and we will get through this! I'm also quick to remind myself that these events are small in comparison to the battles that other families face on a daily basis.
This time of year is full of transitions for so many moms and I know that I'm not alone. Here are a few things that have gotten me through the last few weeks (and months!).
And, if you find yourself just not able to pray, ask others to pray for you. Because of the sensitivity of Mike's decision, I was only able to confide in a couple of people. Words can't begin to express how much it meant when friends would tell me they were praying for me. Never ever underestimate the power of prayer!
Everyone needs at least one person they can go to and dump all their junk. I've started way too many texts with "pity party alert - let me get this all out and then I'll go put on my big girl panties". I can honestly say, I do not know what I would have done without the wonderful women who have stood beside me these last few months. They poured into me, listened to my rants with no judgments, and loved me through my freak outs! I couldn't have made it without their love and support!
It's also important to be there for friends in their time of need and, while I wish my friends would only have good days, I hope and pray I can be there for them like they have been there for me.
I tried so hard to keep it all in, and for months I was able to control the tears, but for the last week, I haven't been able to control my emotions. High school schedule pick-up - cue the waterworks. Kindergarten assessment - tears. Confirming Mike's work schedule - all the tears. After a few days of what seemed like non-stop tears, I actually feel better. It's been almost therapeutic to shed all those tears. So, go ahead and cry! You have my permission! ;)
Get a pedicure. Read a book. Take a nap. Make something. Do anything that will bring a smile to your face! You can't take care of your family without taking care of yourself first.
There's just something about doing something for someone else that can always turn my frown upside down! When I feel like my pity party has gone on long enough, I'll find some way to bless someone else. Turning my focus away from myself towards someone else is always a mood booster. Try it!
The past few weeks have been rough and I would be crazy to think the hard part is over but I know that I can make it through. Thank you for not giving up on my little corner of the blogosphere. I'm so glad you are here! In the coming weeks, I will share with you my vision for what this space will be but you can guarantee that this is a place where you can come to be encouraged. If only to be encouraged that you are not alone!
So, I'm back and looking forward to sharing with you all the changes and bits of chaos that are going on over here while I wait...