Tuesday, June 20, 2017

All aboard the Struggle Bus!

You might have noticed the lack of blog posts lately.  I could blame it on the remodel, on going back to work, on the kids being home for summer break but the truth is...I've been struggling.  The Struggle Bus made a stop and picked me up a few months ago and the darn thing keeps driving in circles and just.won't.stop!  Sometimes it slows down and puts on its flashers making me think it's about to stop but then it quickly merges back into traffic, leaving me slumped and discouraged in my seat wondering if it will ever let me off.

What's it mean to be on the Struggle Bus?  It's a feeling that you can't get free of restraints or resist attacks - either true or made up in your own mind.  It's feeling constrained without a way to get free.  AKA down in the dumps, depressed, sad, in a funk, miserable, moody, discouraged, pessimistic and the list goes on and on.  Many people (including myself) tend to suffer in silence. We wear a smile and fool even our closest friends pretending we have it all together - even though we are falling apart on the inside.  Why do we do this to ourselves?  We don't want it to look like we can't handle what everyone else can handle.  Because we don't want to be "that person".  Because we are constantly told, "you have so many things to be thankful for", "enjoy your season", "there is always someone that has it worse than you".   And while all these things are true, it doesn't help you if you are feeling like you can't function.

So, why come on here today and share this with you?  If I can help just one person feel less alone then it will have been worth it.  If I can make just one other tired mama feel valued even when she feels like she has no value, then it will have been worth it.  Because I want you to know, I understand.

So to the dreamers out there struggling with motivation, I understand.

For the working moms struggling with mom guilt, I understand.

For those out there struggling to please everyone and feeling like you are letting everyone down, I understand.

For those of you struggling with time management, I understand.

For those struggling with comparing your house, your kids, and just about everything else to those that look like they have it all together, I understand.

To the bloggers in a slump because "does anyone really care what I have to say", I understand.

To those struggling to grow your relationship with God, I understand.

To those parents struggling with spending time with your kids versus the never ending to do list, I understand.

To those mamas struggling with tots, tweens, and teens, I understand.

To those struggling with wanting to take better care of yourself but not having the time or energy to do it, I understand.

It's true what they say - the struggle is absolutely real.  So, what do we do? Let's boldly stand up and pull the emergency brake!  Let's grab a girlfriend and confide that we don't have it all together.  Let's give ourselves grace.

I'm not sure how long it will take my bus to come to a halt but I'm hoping that by sharing with you today, that the ride will be over soon!

It's never easy to put yourself out there like this but I've found that it's always worth it.  If you are struggling today, I pray that you will find the courage to reach out and talk to someone!  And, know that I'm here for you too!

Don't give up!


  1. Goodness, I have goose bumps. What a beautiful post, friend! Thank you for sharing and letting us in.... Love you!!!

  2. Love, love, love that you shared your heart! It is so true that everyone is struggling with something whether we know it or not. I'm so thankful for the safe place I have to share with a friend like you.

  3. Hang in there Holly! It does get better or easier, I should say. Sometimes I feel like what am I going to do now? My girls are grown and on their own, my hubby is the busiest he's been with his business. My friends have grandkids, or kids still in High School. What about me? So that is my struggle these days!

  4. Beautiful post. The struggle bus used to pick me up a lot due to many things and I would suffer in silence or just withdraw. I would go to work and just go home. A lot of times I wished the struggle bus would just run me over. A lot of had to with my feelings about my self -worth. Long story, short I have accomplished a bunch in my life but others put me down for it because I don't their image of whatever.

    Anyway, about seven years I found this poem I am going to share here. I have it downloaded on my phone and whenever that bus starts to come I stare at it and it helps me:


    When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
    When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
    When the funds are low and the debts are high,
    And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
    When care is pressing you down a bit-
    Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

    Life is queer with its twists and turns,
    As every one of us sometimes learns,
    And many a fellow turns about
    When he might have won had he stuck it out.
    Don't give up though the pace seems slow -
    You may succeed with another blow.

    Often the goal is nearer than
    It seems to a faint and faltering man;
    Often the struggler has given up
    Whe he might have captured the victor's cup;
    And he learned too late when the night came down,
    How close he was to the golden crown.

    Success is failure turned inside out -
    The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,
    And you never can tell how close you are,
    It might be near when it seems afar;
    So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
    It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

    It helps me and I hope it helps whoever reads this. I love the line "Success is Failure turned inside out." I always thought of myself as a failure but realizing that line has helped me tons.

    Blessings and thank you.

  5. Thank you for sharing this sweet friend! Thinking of you!

  6. so true... we all go through this!! Thinking of you!!


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